Married woman dating a married
He may start thinking about asking her to leave her husband. He could be thrown out of the triangle and the married couple could end up fixing their relationship, this could happen.
The ‘other man’ gets painfully left out, not yet knowing that is the best thing that could happen to him.
By the way, when people say they are afraid of intimacy think ‘exposure’ to what they themselves have difficulty accepting in themselves.
Most people I’ve met who are afraid of intimacy, lose the fear when they accept and feel better about themselves.
His superficial belief that he wants someone else’s woman for the convenience is a lie he defensively tells himself.
The reality is he’s looking for love like the rest of us and afraid of what he’ll find.
Two people get married and have marital problems, instead of resolving those problems either by fixing the relationship or ending it, which by the way can be a valid resolution of a problem, a third party is brought into the relationship, and now you have a triangle.The ‘other man’ is probably afraid that he won’t be able to ‘handle’ a love relationship with a fully available woman.He thinks that loving someone else’s woman will save him from this fear of intimacy. In my world that’s an opportunity for growth because triangles are no good for people.In some instances he ‘knows’ his wife is cheating on him and looks the other way.
In other instances his defenses are so thick he doesn’t read the signs at least consciously.
So let’s look at the type of triangle that has one woman and two men in it.